When we think about losing ourselves, we generally think of it in the sense of a romantic relationship. However, you can lose yourself in your family, your friends, and even your job.
Self-abandonment is as a lack of confidence. If you do things only to get validation from other people, you lack confidence in yourself. Here are a few signs you need to look at.
If you need to bring the judge and jury to justify why you did something, then you lack confidence. You don't need assurance from others to stand on your own conviction. A person who is confident and has high self-esteem decides without any form of guilt. Every decision you make should be well thought out with you as the judge and jury.
Check in with your gut instincts. Our instincts or intuition is like a sixth sense. It alerts us when there is a danger of doing something. Instincts trigger your guts to alert you if something terrible would happen. So if you have a gut instinct, you should never ignore it. They are guides to help you make the right choices.
Don't ignore your emotions. Your emotions reflect how you feel about something, even if you may not have all the facts about it. Positive emotions are love, peace, joy, awe, hope, excitement, etc. Destructive emotions include anger, guilt, or sadness. All these emotions help guide you in making the right decision on your own.
People will always criticize, no matter how good you are doing, and tend to gossip about it. However, when you let this get to you and wallow in self-disgust or pity, you end up losing yourself. Believing in what other people say rather than your own is abandoning yourself. Brush off negative energy and fill yourself with a positive self-image.
How many times has someone asked you to do something for them that you couldn't do? Did you end up saying yes, to make them happy? This is worse than saying no. Because you will likely not be able to fulfil the promise. This also applies if you plan to do something for yourself and don't do it. Make sure you put yourself first and fulfill promises without any regrets.
Engaging in unnecessary drama can be draining. All your energy goes towards negative things. In the process, you end up losing your beliefs and even values. So, never engage in drama which does not bring any positivity to your life.
We have all been in situations where we kept on postponing doing something due to fear or doubt. The more you delay things, the more the mind will find reasons not to do them. This will result in self-doubt and ultimately affect your confidence. So move with decisive action and don't waste precious time.
Losing your true self is relatively easy if you burden yourself with things that weigh you down. Learn to know when to take a step back and listen to yourself and your body. Know when you need a break or a different approach. Free yourself of the load so you can be more confident in life.
Rejecting, suppressing or ignoring who you are is a lack of commitment to yourself. Self-confidence and high self-esteem is how you treat yourself. Making a decision that benefits you in the moment is a step in the right direction.
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