Surviving Marriage: Stop These Common Mistakes

When served with divorce papers, instead of googling for 'divorce lawyers near me'. Look for ways to save your marriage. 

Divorce is a tough experience for a married couple. With kids involved, it doesn't make it easier. But, not everyone wants to go through a divorce. Especially since it can lead to a fight for child custody.  Even for people who file for divorce, the process is also quite draining to leave a whole life behind.

Couples going through rough times will ask the question, "How Can I Stop My Divorce?" There is no real catch all answer or solution to the question; each marriage and each person is different. You can stop your divorce before it starts. Here are some common mistakes to avoid before the 'D' word becomes an option.

Avoid Arguments

Do not enter into an argument, and do not start an argument. Although your partner is also at fault for your marriage being bad, this is not the right time to play the blame game. All that will do is add to the problem. The root of the problem can only come to light if you remove the competition and the need to win.

Your goal is to save your marriage and keep your family together. So, call your spouse, sit down, and talk things out. Express that you don't want to lose them, and that you are willing to do what it takes to save your marriage. You can also suggest that you both go see a therapist to get help.

Stop Emotional Blackmail

Another common mistake is to engage in emotional blackmail. Saying things like "I love you, I cannot live without you" so they don't divorce you. Those three words are one of the most powerful phrases. It carries with it so much weight and is not for fixing a failing marriage. Save the line for when the marriage is back on track.

How can you convey your love if you can't say it? Well, you need to work hard together to find out what makes your marriage not work. And then do or stop doing the things causing the divorce action. Then, once you work hard to save your marriage and you are in a safe and calm state, you can then profess your love.

Actions Speak Louder

A common mistake is saying that you will be better or that things have changed without doing anything to change. Saying "I have changed' will not stop a divorce. This sort of line is rarely believed. It sounds desperate and insincere. Especially if you have broken promises in the past. It does not matter how sincere you are now, or how much you think they want to hear it. Saying or doing the same thing to win their forgiveness will not work this time around. It is best to show that you want your marriage to last. Show that you have changed by actually changing.