Despite what Hollywood movies want you to believe, relationships are not fairytales. They can be fraught with issues, and breaking up with someone is never easy.
Every relationship will have its own set of problems. You can't take anything for granted or expect things to be flawless all of the time. A healthy relationship is dynamic and ever-evolving. However, this does not rule out the possibility of a solution. There are ways to make it easier, and it starts with changing your perspective. With that in mind, here are six steps you can take to avoid a breakup.
You both need some time apart to reset. Your emotions right now, are too intense, and your partner's feelings are hardly receptive at this time. If you try too soon to plead your case for getting back together, then you run the risk of pushing the person away. The best thing is to take a break from the relationship. A break will give you both a chance to see what you need from one another. It will also give you a chance to see if this relationship has staying power or not.
During your time apart, consider what went wrong in your relationship. What things led to the break-up? What could you have done to avoid it. Figure out the source of the issues that brought about the separation. It could be anything from unresolved conflicts to social media drama. But try not to focus on past mistakes too much — this will only make you feel more bitter towards them than before. That's why it's important to take the time and introspect and understand what went wrong.
Now that you have a handle on the problems, you can start to come up with possible solutions. You aren't talking to your ex yet, so you will have to do this part by yourself. Start by evaluating yourself. Figure out how you can change or improve yourself for the better in order to make them want you again. Some possible solutions may be to:
You may be able to get by without a plan, but you will find that having one makes things that much easier. This will help you find what you need to do to evolve your relationship and get it out of the rut that's in. It might include meeting your partner halfway or talking things out. Now that you have had time to figure things out, it's time to get back together with your partner.
Hooray! You've made it this far, and now it's time to take a big step: getting back in touch to talk things out — without any anger or blame involved! Your initial contact should be low-key because you don't want to run the risk of scaring them off. You want the first contact to set up a time and place where the two of you can talk face-to-face. Once you start talking, be sure to be friendly and respectful. Share the things you have come to realize, but remember to take things slowly.
You may feel like there is no hope for your relationship. Still, try your hardest to make up for what happened before, it can work out in the end. If your ex is willing to give your relationship another try, then be ready to work towards it. You both need to work on the hurdles you experienced that led to the breakup. It could take a while but mending a broken relationship is worth the wait for better things ahead.
These tips for fixing a broken relationship will get you off to a good start, but you need to actually do them. Sure, it takes some effort, but it's an effort that will eventually make you happy.
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